Episode 13: Sex With Friends: Aida


I adore my friends. What I adore even more is knowing that they are living happy and fulfilled sexual lives.

I love knowing that they’re feeling comfortable in their skin. I love knowing that they’re happily taking up space with their bodies and expressions. I love knowing that they are experiencing, in their own ways, erotic joy.

And I want to spend more time celebrating them and shining a light on their sexual beingness.

Because, that’s what true friends do.

So. . . meet one of my faves, Aida Manduley (whose pronouns are they/them). Aida’s name is hilariously and coincidentally pronounced like, “I demand a lay,” which is so fitting because Aida is one of my favorite champions for sexual liberation and erotic joy.

And I’d like to introduce you to them.

In this episode of the Sexually Liberated Woman podcast, I chat with Aida about. . .

/ Their first memories of sex energy, and how their Jehovah’s Witness upbringing informed their ideas about sexuality.

Girl crushes and the realization that they might not be straight.

/ The funny places Aida learned about sex (spoiler: through LiveJournal, Deviant Art, and roleplaying forums).

/ Some of the challenging moments they experienced as they came into their adult sexual identity, + Aida’s sexual identity now—which includes glitter and polymorphous perversities. 

/ And a special surprise for Aida (and you too) at the end.

“I believe very strongly in living as openly as possible just to, at the very least, show other people that they have options, that there’s not just one way to be a queer, non-monogamous person.”

Just by being who they are, Aida has given me permission to be the truth of who I am.

It’s my honor to introduce you to them.

Press play to listen to our conversation. (Or listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.)

Some things mentioned in this episode:

About Aida: Aida Manduley, MSW is an award-winning Latinx activist known for big earrings and building bridges. With specialties in arenas such as sexuality and trauma, they’re working to make the word a more equitable place through education, therapy, and community organizing. Mx. Manduley regularly writes about social justice and practically lives on the Internet, so feel free to say hello.

Ev'Yan Whitney